I have thought that the beauty of a person begins with the eyes, their smile , their heart. But that is no longer what many men consider as the beauty of a woman. Many, many men rarely get to look into the eyes of a woman and accept her inner beauty that her outer beauty accentuates. They choose a more southern gauge of what is the beauty of a woman... HER BOOTY.
I will never fathom why the ass is all many men choose to use as to why the will or will not be with a woman. To each it's own. But to be honest with you, if more males wouldn't be so shallow about who they think deserve their time, attention or sperm, we might not have as many unwanted children , and a willingness to blame a woman's lack of wise choices on why he is in a bad situation with that woman.
I fail to see why two lumps of flesh as a reason to lose good judgement and make a path and life of destructive choices for others to blame on. A fat ass has caused men to choose a woman who cannot keep house, bathe , or take care of children. A fat ass has gotten men taken to jail, the hospital, and to lose his original family, and even his life. I fail to see a fat ass as worth it.
I see the beauty in a beautifully shaped woman. But rarely do thoughts of fidelity, love, or responsibility of the person who possesses the ass, cross the minds of men. Rare are the thoughts of she has a nice ass, what other qualities do this person have that I can add to my qualities and we can grow together.
See ass, I want to have sex with it.
Of course the times dictate how people react. When men looked at how WELL a woman dressed and carried herself, females went out of their way to wear nice coordinated fashions, makeup and hairstyles to attract the eye of the males. As time passed it became how short can you get your clothes, and then the minis came back, then how tight can you get it .. and the leather clothes and tight body suits came in...
Then came this era. The STRIPPER era....
Where the less you wear the more attention you get. Any given day you can see butt cheeks, breasts, and even some coochie if they bend over a Lil, at that is at church. You see picture after picture on the net of young and sometimes even older women squatting down, or turned backwards in the stripper poses, as if to say, I am ass, hear me no more. Her voice as a woman is gone when she trades in her self respect and esteem for a man picking her because her ass is fat. (stomach must be flat as well for some males to pay any attention)
It is like women have become a sum of their body parts. Females are letting them degrade them down to the flaps on their backside, and the pit between their thighs. Females complain about wanting respect yet time after time if a camera flashes the female has turned backside forward.
Or her body is cocked in some stripper worthy pose that even a preacher couldn't respect her if he saw her.
I say at some point, females need to have more respect for themselves than to think their ass is the best thing going for themselves. Why even want a man that is only interested in you because he saw your ass. You wearing too small clothes, and putting your ass in his face every time he blinks.... no wonder he sleeps with you and he is done... he took what you gave him... a bunch of ass.
Like one young man at a football game I attended said..."Could you sit cho ass down, so I can see the game!!?!"
We have Got to do better.